Bereavement & Loss
One of the most painful and natural experiences
Loss takes many forms. You may have gradually lost someone you love and experience grief alongside guilt for feeling relief. Or you may feel extremely angry at the deceased person for leaving you, you may feel furious with the injustice of the world and question randomness of death. You may blame yourself for not always being nice to the deceased, regret not having said the last words or parting on bad terms. However, there is always a reason why you behave a certain way. It always takes two people to be in a relationship and create certain dynamics. You may have encountered death for the first time and feel anxious about the fact that life ends. You may be questioning your values and priorities and wondering how long you do have left and whether you will ever be able to achieve your goals. All the above-mentioned feelings are a normal part of grief process, and you need not question your feelings. There is always a reason why you feel what you feel.
It may have happened that you lost someone abruptly and still finding yourself in disbelief or denial that it happened. You may catch yourself wanting to message or call the person, only to remember that they are not there. You may even talk to them as if they are in the house, keep their belongings in place and hope that they will step through the door one day. Counselling element of psychoanalytic psychotherapy will provide the support you need to gradually accept what happened and move towards healthier relationship with the deceased. Holding on to them does not mean you will forget them or love them less. Through your love you have internalised their presence and their personality within yourself.
This means they will always be alive inside your heart no matter whether you are actively thinking about them or not. Similarly, to the way you do not stop loving your family or your other half even if you forgot about them for a day. You will always have a relationship with the deceased, but it may have to change. Psychoanalytic psychotherapy will help you to be honest with yourself about what happened.